When was the last time you gave something because the other person did something to make your day? Did you give because you had to, or did you give because you were grateful for their action towards you? And did you give expecting something in return?
When we give we are sending out signals to the universe and attract back what we give out. If we give and don't expect anything in return, then the universe sees this and this activates the Reciprocation Law, the give/receive universe law.
Does it matter what we give? No it does not matter, you will receive back what you give out. If you give away money, you will receive money back. If you give out love, you will receive back love. We receive the same thing back what we give out.
Don't expect what we give to be returned back to us by the person we give to. And also don't expect something in return when we give.This law dosn't work like this. What ever we give out could come back to us from anywhere. Always give with gratitude.
The other interesting thing about this universal law is we receive back 10 times more than we give out. Have you noticed that businesses give away 10% of the money they make? This helps the businesses and the receiptant of their money. This is a win/win situation for the business. They are seen to be helping a worthy cause and the business is receiving back 10 times what they gave away.
Who to we give to to activate this law? Don't give when we fell guilty about giving. Also don't give to anyoney who asks for what we are giving away. Give to anyone we fell gratitude towards for something they have done to lift out spirits.
What if we don't have anything to give. We all have something to give. You could give away this ezine.
Share you stories of giving on our blog.
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Bob Doyle - Challenge
I wanted to let you know about something that is happening that you'll be interested in if there's anything in your life that you've been wanting to do or accomplish, but for whatever reason, been unable to do so.
This project is being facilitated by Bob Doyle, who you may know from the movie "The Secret", and more recently, "The Opus", or you may be familiar with his Wealth Beyond Reason program.
In any case, you need to know that Bob is a strong advocate for the power of personatransformation in all areas of life, and he has proven himself able to help thousands of people to do that over the years.
Bob has just announced what he's calling "The Boundless Living" challenge, and it's an extraordinary opportunity for you and anyone else you know to experience the kind of transformation I'm talking about in virtually any area of your life you can imagine.
I won't ramble on here about it because there is a short video that explains everything here:
http://tinyurl.com/dzcskb
Please realize that there is nothing to buy, and there is no fee to be a part of this challenge, and you will have an amazing support system should you decide to take this on.
Check it out. You're going to be hearing a lot more about it from people other than me in the coming days, I'm sure. :)
This project is being facilitated by Bob Doyle, who you may know from the movie "The Secret", and more recently, "The Opus", or you may be familiar with his Wealth Beyond Reason program.
In any case, you need to know that Bob is a strong advocate for the power of personatransformation in all areas of life, and he has proven himself able to help thousands of people to do that over the years.
Bob has just announced what he's calling "The Boundless Living" challenge, and it's an extraordinary opportunity for you and anyone else you know to experience the kind of transformation I'm talking about in virtually any area of your life you can imagine.
I won't ramble on here about it because there is a short video that explains everything here:
http://tinyurl.com/dzcskb
Please realize that there is nothing to buy, and there is no fee to be a part of this challenge, and you will have an amazing support system should you decide to take this on.
Check it out. You're going to be hearing a lot more about it from people other than me in the coming days, I'm sure. :)
Thursday, February 19, 2009
The Science of Being Great - Wallace D Wattles
This is the first chapter of the Science of Being great
Any Person May Become Great.
Chapter one
There is a Principle of Power in every person. By the intelligent use and direction of this principle, man can develop his own mental faculties. Man has an inherent power by which he may grow in whatsoever direction he pleases, and there does not appear to be any limit to the possibilities of his growth. No man has yet become so great in any faculty but that it is possible for some one else to become greater. The possibility is the Original Substance from which man is made. Genius is Omniscience flowing into man. Genius is more than talent. Talent may merely be one faculty developed out of proportion to other faculties, but genius is the union of man and God in the acts of the soul. Great men are always greater than their deeds. They are in connection with a reserve power that is without limit. We do not know where the boundary of the mental powers of man is; we do not even know that there is a boundary.
The power of conscious growth is not given to the lower animals; it is man's alone and may be developed and increased by him. The lower animals can, to a great extent, be trained and developed by man; but man can train and develop himself. He alone has this power, and he has it to an apparently unlimited extent.
The purpose of life for man is growth, just as the purpose of life for trees and plants is growth. Trees and plants grow automatically and along fixed lines; man can grow as he will. Trees and plants can only develop certain possibilities and characteristics; man can develop any power which is or has been shown by any person, anywhere. Nothing that is possible in spirit is impossible in flesh and blood. Nothing that man can think is impossible in action. Nothing that mancan imagine is impossible of realization.
Man is formed for growth, and he is under the necessity of growing.
It is essential to his happiness that he should continuously advance.
Life without progress becomes unendurable, and the person who ceases from growth must either become imbecile or insane. The greater and more harmonious and well-rounded his growth, the happier man will be.
There is no possibility in any man that is not in every man; but if they proceed naturally, no two men will grow into the same thing, or be alike. Every man comes into the world with a predisposition to grow along certain lines, and growth is easier for him along those lines than in any other way. This is a wise provision, for it gives endless variety. It is as if a gardener should throw all his the bulbs into one basket; to the superficial observer they would look alike, but growth revels a tremendous difference. So of men and women; they are like the basket of bulbs. One may be a rose and add brightness and color to some dark corner of the world; one may be a lily and teach a lesson of love and purity to every eye that sees; one may be a climbing vine and hide the rugged outlines of some dark rock; one may be a great oak among whose boughs the birds shall
nest and sing, and beneath whose shade the flocks shall rest at noon, but every one will be something worth while, something rare, something perfect.
There are undreamed of possibilities in the common lives all around us in a large sense, there are no common people. In times of national stress and peril the cracker-box loafer of the corner store and the village drunkard become heroes and statesmen through the quickening of the Principle of Power within them. There is a genius in every man and woman, waiting to be brought forth. Every village has its great man or woman; some one to whom all go for advice in time of trouble; some one who is instinctively recognized as being great in wisdom and insight. To such a one the minds of the whole community turn in times of local crisis; he is tacitly recognized as being great. He does small things in a great way. He could do great things as well if he did but undertake them; so can any man; so can you. The Principle of Power gives us just what we ask of it; if we only undertake little things, it only gives us power for little things; but if we try to do great things in a great way it gives us all the power there is.
But beware of undertaking great things in a small way; of that we shall speak farther on.
There are two mental attitudes a man may take. One makes him like a football. It has resilience and reacts strongly when force is applied to it, but it originates nothing; it never acts of itself. There is no power within it. Men of this type are controlled by circumstances and environment; their destinies are decided by things external to themselves. The Principle of Power within them is never really active at all. They never speak or act from within. The other attitude makes man like a flowing spring. Power comes out from the centre of him. He has within him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. he radiates force; he is felt by his environment. The Principle of Power in him is in constant action. He is self-active. He hath life in himself.
No greater good can come to any man or woman than to become self-active. All the experiences of life are designed by Providence to force men and women into self-activity; to compel them to cease being creatures of circumstances and master their environment. In his lowest stage, man is the child of chance and circumstance and the slave of fear. His acts are all reactions resulting from the impingement upon him of forces in his environment. He acts only as he is acted upon; he originates nothing. But the lowest savage has within him a Principle of Power sufficient to master all that he fears; and if he learns this and becomes self-active, he becomes as one of the gods.
The awakening of the Principle of Power in man is the real conversion; the passing from death to life. It is when dead hear the voice of the Son of Man and come forth and live. It is the resurrection and the life. When it is awakened, man becomes a son of the Highest and all power is given to him in heaven and on earth.
Nothing was ever in any man that is not in you; no man ever had more spiritual or mental power than you can attain, or did greater things than you can accomplish. You can become what you want to be.
For futher info visit http://tinyurl.com/8r89uu
Any Person May Become Great.
Chapter one
There is a Principle of Power in every person. By the intelligent use and direction of this principle, man can develop his own mental faculties. Man has an inherent power by which he may grow in whatsoever direction he pleases, and there does not appear to be any limit to the possibilities of his growth. No man has yet become so great in any faculty but that it is possible for some one else to become greater. The possibility is the Original Substance from which man is made. Genius is Omniscience flowing into man. Genius is more than talent. Talent may merely be one faculty developed out of proportion to other faculties, but genius is the union of man and God in the acts of the soul. Great men are always greater than their deeds. They are in connection with a reserve power that is without limit. We do not know where the boundary of the mental powers of man is; we do not even know that there is a boundary.
The power of conscious growth is not given to the lower animals; it is man's alone and may be developed and increased by him. The lower animals can, to a great extent, be trained and developed by man; but man can train and develop himself. He alone has this power, and he has it to an apparently unlimited extent.
The purpose of life for man is growth, just as the purpose of life for trees and plants is growth. Trees and plants grow automatically and along fixed lines; man can grow as he will. Trees and plants can only develop certain possibilities and characteristics; man can develop any power which is or has been shown by any person, anywhere. Nothing that is possible in spirit is impossible in flesh and blood. Nothing that man can think is impossible in action. Nothing that mancan imagine is impossible of realization.
Man is formed for growth, and he is under the necessity of growing.
It is essential to his happiness that he should continuously advance.
Life without progress becomes unendurable, and the person who ceases from growth must either become imbecile or insane. The greater and more harmonious and well-rounded his growth, the happier man will be.
There is no possibility in any man that is not in every man; but if they proceed naturally, no two men will grow into the same thing, or be alike. Every man comes into the world with a predisposition to grow along certain lines, and growth is easier for him along those lines than in any other way. This is a wise provision, for it gives endless variety. It is as if a gardener should throw all his the bulbs into one basket; to the superficial observer they would look alike, but growth revels a tremendous difference. So of men and women; they are like the basket of bulbs. One may be a rose and add brightness and color to some dark corner of the world; one may be a lily and teach a lesson of love and purity to every eye that sees; one may be a climbing vine and hide the rugged outlines of some dark rock; one may be a great oak among whose boughs the birds shall
nest and sing, and beneath whose shade the flocks shall rest at noon, but every one will be something worth while, something rare, something perfect.
There are undreamed of possibilities in the common lives all around us in a large sense, there are no common people. In times of national stress and peril the cracker-box loafer of the corner store and the village drunkard become heroes and statesmen through the quickening of the Principle of Power within them. There is a genius in every man and woman, waiting to be brought forth. Every village has its great man or woman; some one to whom all go for advice in time of trouble; some one who is instinctively recognized as being great in wisdom and insight. To such a one the minds of the whole community turn in times of local crisis; he is tacitly recognized as being great. He does small things in a great way. He could do great things as well if he did but undertake them; so can any man; so can you. The Principle of Power gives us just what we ask of it; if we only undertake little things, it only gives us power for little things; but if we try to do great things in a great way it gives us all the power there is.
But beware of undertaking great things in a small way; of that we shall speak farther on.
There are two mental attitudes a man may take. One makes him like a football. It has resilience and reacts strongly when force is applied to it, but it originates nothing; it never acts of itself. There is no power within it. Men of this type are controlled by circumstances and environment; their destinies are decided by things external to themselves. The Principle of Power within them is never really active at all. They never speak or act from within. The other attitude makes man like a flowing spring. Power comes out from the centre of him. He has within him a well of water springing up into everlasting life. he radiates force; he is felt by his environment. The Principle of Power in him is in constant action. He is self-active. He hath life in himself.
No greater good can come to any man or woman than to become self-active. All the experiences of life are designed by Providence to force men and women into self-activity; to compel them to cease being creatures of circumstances and master their environment. In his lowest stage, man is the child of chance and circumstance and the slave of fear. His acts are all reactions resulting from the impingement upon him of forces in his environment. He acts only as he is acted upon; he originates nothing. But the lowest savage has within him a Principle of Power sufficient to master all that he fears; and if he learns this and becomes self-active, he becomes as one of the gods.
The awakening of the Principle of Power in man is the real conversion; the passing from death to life. It is when dead hear the voice of the Son of Man and come forth and live. It is the resurrection and the life. When it is awakened, man becomes a son of the Highest and all power is given to him in heaven and on earth.
Nothing was ever in any man that is not in you; no man ever had more spiritual or mental power than you can attain, or did greater things than you can accomplish. You can become what you want to be.
For futher info visit http://tinyurl.com/8r89uu
Saturday, February 14, 2009
The Science of Getting Rich - Walace D Walltes
Are you strugling with money? Have trouble paying the bills? Then recession proof your wealth with the "Science of Getting Rich" by Wallace D Wattales
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Saturday, December 20, 2008
The 10 percent law or the 10/10 law as it is known.
This law states that if you give away money then you will receive 10 times the amount you gave away. How does this work you may be asking?
When we give money away this creates money streams. You make connections by giving money away. These connections allow more money to flow. The more connection we make, the more money flows. You need to connect up the pipes that will allow money to flow.
Does it matter who we give money to? Of course it matters who we give money to. We don't want to be giving money away to a bottomless pit. Give money away to an organisation is one example. They will take care of your money and not squander the money away. This money will then be used to help someone in need. We could also give money to someone who has been helpfull to us.
When you give money, expect to receive more. Be greatful and happy when we give money away. Don't fell that you have less money. You should plan to give 10 percent of your money away. We call this the 10 percent rule, or the 10/10 rule. Give away 10 percent and expect to receive 10 times the amount you gave away.
The person or the organisation we gave money to, may not be the source of the money that is returned. Don't expect the money to come back from where we gave the money to. Also don't expect to win the money back. But expect the unexpected. Money will come back to you from the least unlikley source sometimes. Maybe there is someone who owes you money, that you have forgotten about. But be certain that money will come back to you, it may just take some time for the money to return.
For further information on this law and to also receive 7 free lessons from the teachers of The Secret then visit http://www.clickaudit.com/goto/?76680
When we give money away this creates money streams. You make connections by giving money away. These connections allow more money to flow. The more connection we make, the more money flows. You need to connect up the pipes that will allow money to flow.
Does it matter who we give money to? Of course it matters who we give money to. We don't want to be giving money away to a bottomless pit. Give money away to an organisation is one example. They will take care of your money and not squander the money away. This money will then be used to help someone in need. We could also give money to someone who has been helpfull to us.
When you give money, expect to receive more. Be greatful and happy when we give money away. Don't fell that you have less money. You should plan to give 10 percent of your money away. We call this the 10 percent rule, or the 10/10 rule. Give away 10 percent and expect to receive 10 times the amount you gave away.
The person or the organisation we gave money to, may not be the source of the money that is returned. Don't expect the money to come back from where we gave the money to. Also don't expect to win the money back. But expect the unexpected. Money will come back to you from the least unlikley source sometimes. Maybe there is someone who owes you money, that you have forgotten about. But be certain that money will come back to you, it may just take some time for the money to return.
For further information on this law and to also receive 7 free lessons from the teachers of The Secret then visit http://www.clickaudit.com/goto/?76680
Friday, November 28, 2008
Top 3 Criteria In Goal Setting
Goal setting is one of the most powerful tools that you can ever use to achieve the things that you want in your life. When you set your goals, you are somehow creating objectives for yourself, you are actually put in more energy and focus into making your goals come true.
This is the reason goal setting works and it works wonder if you make good use of it. The problem with most people is that they do not know how to set empowering goals that will keep going. Below are the top 3 criteria in goal setting that you must follow in order to achieve your goals…
1. Your goals must be as specific as possible and you must include a deadline for your goals. Remember, be as specific as possible. If you want to be rich, how much do you want to earn and how much do you want to accumulate? If you want to own a sport car, what color, what model and when are you going to own it? The more specific the better because it allows your mind to picture it vividly and focus to get it.
2. You must write down your goals. This is a common step that most people will not do. If you are serious in achieving your goals, you must do this. If you are not writing down your goals, they will remain as dreams. So write down your goals on a piece of paper right now and paste this paper somewhere you can see often. You have to do so, to constantly remind yourself about your goals.
3. Take at least 3 action steps that will bring you closer to your goal each and everyday. Most people fail to achieve their goal because once they wrote down their goal, they do nothing about it. It is not like after you have written down your goal and everything will come true automatically. Goal setting is not a magic wand; you need to put in action to make your goals come true.
These are the top 3 criteria that your goals must have. Remember, you must write down your goals and be as specific as possible. And don’t forget to take massive of action to make your goals come true.
If you are serious in achieving what you really want in your life, goal setting is the right tool for you. I’m going to share with you the 3 phases of Goal Setting Activities, you are about to discover the real and guaranteed strategies how to achieve your goals.
For more information about Goal Setting Activities, please visit: http://www.Goal-Setting-Activities.com
This is the reason goal setting works and it works wonder if you make good use of it. The problem with most people is that they do not know how to set empowering goals that will keep going. Below are the top 3 criteria in goal setting that you must follow in order to achieve your goals…
1. Your goals must be as specific as possible and you must include a deadline for your goals. Remember, be as specific as possible. If you want to be rich, how much do you want to earn and how much do you want to accumulate? If you want to own a sport car, what color, what model and when are you going to own it? The more specific the better because it allows your mind to picture it vividly and focus to get it.
2. You must write down your goals. This is a common step that most people will not do. If you are serious in achieving your goals, you must do this. If you are not writing down your goals, they will remain as dreams. So write down your goals on a piece of paper right now and paste this paper somewhere you can see often. You have to do so, to constantly remind yourself about your goals.
3. Take at least 3 action steps that will bring you closer to your goal each and everyday. Most people fail to achieve their goal because once they wrote down their goal, they do nothing about it. It is not like after you have written down your goal and everything will come true automatically. Goal setting is not a magic wand; you need to put in action to make your goals come true.
These are the top 3 criteria that your goals must have. Remember, you must write down your goals and be as specific as possible. And don’t forget to take massive of action to make your goals come true.
If you are serious in achieving what you really want in your life, goal setting is the right tool for you. I’m going to share with you the 3 phases of Goal Setting Activities, you are about to discover the real and guaranteed strategies how to achieve your goals.
For more information about Goal Setting Activities, please visit: http://www.Goal-Setting-Activities.com
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Laughter Is Truly The Best Medicine
Laughter Is Truly The Best Medicine
by: Laurie J. Brenner
If there's one thing I have to admit about my mother is that she was always right about this: Laughter Is The Best Medicine.
If you can't laugh about yourself and the things that happen to you - you're headed for a heart attack or some other malady, it's the way the body works. Laughter lightens the moment and strips away the seriousness that many of us approach life with; it releases the pain and chases away your personal rainstorms leaving a bright sunshiny day.
Scientists have also discovered that laughter strengthens your immune system and increases your cardiovascular flexibility (your blood vessels exercise through dilation).
According to Dr. Goodheart, the laughter doctor, laughter convulses your diaphragm, which in turn massages your internal organs. Massaged internal organs are happy internal organs and they cooperate by staying plump and juicy.
She says that laughter also causes you to gulp in large portions of air, oxygenating your blood. When that air is expelled, it's been clocked at 70 miles an hour, providing the lungs with an excellent workout. By laughing, she says, you lose muscle control, which relaxes the skeletal system. According to Dr. Goodheart, four-year-olds laugh 500 times a day, while adults laugh a mere 15! She's convinced that if we laugh as much as a four-year old, we've have the heart rate and blood pressure of that same child.
On top of all that, she continues, laughter causes the brain to produce hormones called beta endorphins which reduce pain and causes our adrenal glands to manufacture cortisol, which is a natural anti-inflammatory that's wonderful for arthritis.
Laughter also provides a catharsis, which means to purify or purge, to the emotions. It also brings about a spiritual renewal or release from tension. You notice how sometimes you'll see a comedian on television, and while he may not be that funny, something just makes you laugh uproariously? Your body seems to know that it needs the chemicals that are released through laughter.
I've always felt better after a good belly laugh or two. For me that means some very large-sounding snorts and a few donkey brays thrown into the bargain. Some people won't even go to the movie with me because when I start laughing I cannot stop. My daughters always used to go, Mom! as they slunk down into their seats trying not to be seen.
When someone's laughing, others laugh along. It's contagious. You can't help it. Oftentimes in my movie-theater laughter excursions, I have motivated a whole theater-full of people laughing right along with me. All this during the credits! (John Belushi being escorted through the prison in the opening credit scenes of The Blues Brothers. If you notice very carefully, while walking he has his butt cheeks pressed ever so tightly together as he's leaving the prison. It was a subtle physical comment that kept me laughing. The more people turned and looked at me, the harder I laughed! Finally, they just gave up and joined me!).
The Difference between Laughter, Humor, Teasing and Tickling
However, there is a difference between laughter, humor, teasing or tickling. Humor is your way of looking at the world, it's an intellectual exercise. It's your idea of what's funny; it's not the actual act of laughing.
Teasing and tickling are really a way of ridiculing someone. Tickling is something beyond someone's control and is actually a physical invasion of sorts. Children laugh when you tickle them because the body works that way, but it's actually a form of emotional ridicule that can result in very unpleasant feelings.
Teasing usually has an edge to it. People say they're teasing, but essentially they are dead serious. I think teasing is a passive-aggressive way of hurting someone through the guise of humor. Teasing, according to Dr. Goodheart, "involves our having information about something that another person has very strong feelings about - usually painful feelings - and then bringing that information up without permission." She also says that as people become very good friends they might give each other permission unconsciously to push each other's buttons. Husbands, wives, lovers, and friends play with each other's pain with permission. "When you tease without permission in order to trigger laughter, it's very manipulative and controlling."
All in all, when you're feeling down and need a lift, try laughter. It may be hard at first, but just try laughing. Force yourself. Pretty soon, you'll find yourself laughing at your own laughter and the looks you get from your family members. They'll begin to wonder what's so funny and the corners of their mouths will crinkle up in the beginning of a smile. Now you're laughing because they give you these quizzical looks wondering what you're laughing about.
Pretty soon, your laugh is real, your belly aches, the tears flow from your eyes, and the world takes on a different hue.
As for me when I laugh like this, I need Depends. I laugh so hard sometimes I wet my pants and that has nothing to do with my age.
I can still hear my friend's mom yelling at me today nearly 38 years later (while grinning ear to ear) to get off her brocade couch whenever I started laughing.
She knew what would happen.
About The Author
Laurie J. Brenner
Former managing editor of California's oldest continuously published weekly, Brenner recently completed her book about the law of attraction. Pick up your copy today of the Little Book of Becoming, http://www.LittleBookofBecoming.com
by: Laurie J. Brenner
If there's one thing I have to admit about my mother is that she was always right about this: Laughter Is The Best Medicine.
If you can't laugh about yourself and the things that happen to you - you're headed for a heart attack or some other malady, it's the way the body works. Laughter lightens the moment and strips away the seriousness that many of us approach life with; it releases the pain and chases away your personal rainstorms leaving a bright sunshiny day.
Scientists have also discovered that laughter strengthens your immune system and increases your cardiovascular flexibility (your blood vessels exercise through dilation).
According to Dr. Goodheart, the laughter doctor, laughter convulses your diaphragm, which in turn massages your internal organs. Massaged internal organs are happy internal organs and they cooperate by staying plump and juicy.
She says that laughter also causes you to gulp in large portions of air, oxygenating your blood. When that air is expelled, it's been clocked at 70 miles an hour, providing the lungs with an excellent workout. By laughing, she says, you lose muscle control, which relaxes the skeletal system. According to Dr. Goodheart, four-year-olds laugh 500 times a day, while adults laugh a mere 15! She's convinced that if we laugh as much as a four-year old, we've have the heart rate and blood pressure of that same child.
On top of all that, she continues, laughter causes the brain to produce hormones called beta endorphins which reduce pain and causes our adrenal glands to manufacture cortisol, which is a natural anti-inflammatory that's wonderful for arthritis.
Laughter also provides a catharsis, which means to purify or purge, to the emotions. It also brings about a spiritual renewal or release from tension. You notice how sometimes you'll see a comedian on television, and while he may not be that funny, something just makes you laugh uproariously? Your body seems to know that it needs the chemicals that are released through laughter.
I've always felt better after a good belly laugh or two. For me that means some very large-sounding snorts and a few donkey brays thrown into the bargain. Some people won't even go to the movie with me because when I start laughing I cannot stop. My daughters always used to go, Mom! as they slunk down into their seats trying not to be seen.
When someone's laughing, others laugh along. It's contagious. You can't help it. Oftentimes in my movie-theater laughter excursions, I have motivated a whole theater-full of people laughing right along with me. All this during the credits! (John Belushi being escorted through the prison in the opening credit scenes of The Blues Brothers. If you notice very carefully, while walking he has his butt cheeks pressed ever so tightly together as he's leaving the prison. It was a subtle physical comment that kept me laughing. The more people turned and looked at me, the harder I laughed! Finally, they just gave up and joined me!).
The Difference between Laughter, Humor, Teasing and Tickling
However, there is a difference between laughter, humor, teasing or tickling. Humor is your way of looking at the world, it's an intellectual exercise. It's your idea of what's funny; it's not the actual act of laughing.
Teasing and tickling are really a way of ridiculing someone. Tickling is something beyond someone's control and is actually a physical invasion of sorts. Children laugh when you tickle them because the body works that way, but it's actually a form of emotional ridicule that can result in very unpleasant feelings.
Teasing usually has an edge to it. People say they're teasing, but essentially they are dead serious. I think teasing is a passive-aggressive way of hurting someone through the guise of humor. Teasing, according to Dr. Goodheart, "involves our having information about something that another person has very strong feelings about - usually painful feelings - and then bringing that information up without permission." She also says that as people become very good friends they might give each other permission unconsciously to push each other's buttons. Husbands, wives, lovers, and friends play with each other's pain with permission. "When you tease without permission in order to trigger laughter, it's very manipulative and controlling."
All in all, when you're feeling down and need a lift, try laughter. It may be hard at first, but just try laughing. Force yourself. Pretty soon, you'll find yourself laughing at your own laughter and the looks you get from your family members. They'll begin to wonder what's so funny and the corners of their mouths will crinkle up in the beginning of a smile. Now you're laughing because they give you these quizzical looks wondering what you're laughing about.
Pretty soon, your laugh is real, your belly aches, the tears flow from your eyes, and the world takes on a different hue.
As for me when I laugh like this, I need Depends. I laugh so hard sometimes I wet my pants and that has nothing to do with my age.
I can still hear my friend's mom yelling at me today nearly 38 years later (while grinning ear to ear) to get off her brocade couch whenever I started laughing.
She knew what would happen.
About The Author
Laurie J. Brenner
Former managing editor of California's oldest continuously published weekly, Brenner recently completed her book about the law of attraction. Pick up your copy today of the Little Book of Becoming, http://www.LittleBookofBecoming.com
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